In my hunt for the Great American Lesbian memoir I’ve uncovered a gem. Beren deMotier’s The Brides of March: Memoir of a Same-Sex Marriage shares an intimate glimpse into Oregon’s brief foray into gay marriage in Multnomah county.
Beren and her spouse Jannine become one of the almost five hundred gay couples who were issued a marriage license on March 3, 2004. The Brides of March opens on the night of the 2nd when Jannine reserves the couple’s place at the head of the line by camping overnight at the courthouse leaving Beren at home to care for their three children. The story weaves back to describe their meeting almost twenty years before and forward into what became the controversial legal aftermath of the county’s decision. Delving into everything from stay-at-home parenthood and relations with the in-laws to tattoos and Paxil, this is a book that reads like a chat with a funnier version of your best friend.
Ultimately The Brides of March is the story of a family making its way in a world divided. From the protesters at the Courthouse and the toddler-on-hip walk down the aisle of the Unitarian church to the high volume legal debate and the rampant consumption of Diet Coke, Beren takes us along for the ride. If you’ve ever wondered what goes on in families on the front lines of the nation’s struggle around gay marriage, this is the book for you.
Anyone have other suggestions for the Great American Lesbian memoir?