That is the big question around here these days. At the beginning of this process we were VERY clear about taking the most conservative approach possible. Conservative with respect to the likelihood of multiples. In fact, we have been “against medical advice” kind of conservative. As a physician herself AND being the daughter of an OB, my wife has WAY TOO MUCH information about the challenges of multiples. From both the pregnancy and the life outcome perspective. My father-in-law actually suggested at the beginning of this process that we check the triplet rate for the RE we are using. His exact words were “Twins are hard, but now triplets? Your marriage will be over.” Ummm….. gulp. In fact, I’d like to have a word with whoever said that knowledge was power. In this case, I’m not so sure. As a result of all of this kind of thinking, we elected to have a follicle reduction that left only one follicle prior to our first IUI. We went on to transfer one blastocyst for our fresh IVF cycle and again only one blastocyst for the last frozen cycle. If you read this blog, you know where all of that conservatism has gotten us. NOT PREGNANT!!!
Now here we are in December and the question is finally back on the table. My position has remain unchanged. I (perhaps bc I am not burdened by any of that claustrophobic data) am not afraid of twins. We have the resources, we have the love and I’m sure we can do it. My wife is worried about the increased risk of all sorts of troubles, but I say (with ignorant confidence) “We can handle whatever we get and find a way to be grateful for it”.
If anyone is reading this, I would love to hear how you made/are making this decision.